The Process of Becoming Her
  1. I am also on this journey myself and probably always will be.
  2. This is not only for people who identify with ‘Her’. This could be for anyone that identifies with any other pronouns.

Analyzing our belief systems.

We hold a lot of beliefs, whether we are aware of them or not.

What does Becoming Her mean?

The process of becoming Her is the pursuit of becoming the best version of yourself each day. And in that pursuit, I believe we have to learn to be limitless, and more intentional with our thoughts and our belief system.

Main Character Energy:

Becoming Her means becoming and acting like the main character of your life movie. Main character energy is about the process of learning to become the woman of your dreams.

Being intentional.

It’s a journey at aiming to live the life you’ve imagined for yourself, and not how others want you to live. Moreover, it’s about owning your story, and learning to love yourself and your human journey. It’s about falling in love with your life; even the everyday mundane tasks, and realizing that you are the one you’ve been searching for. It’s about giving yourself more love each day and allowing every experience to come and go.

Three Crucial Steps to Take in the Process of Becoming Her:

1. Get specific about the details of your ideal self

The first step is to correct your inner dialogue and adjust any beliefs that are not allowing you to live the most authentic and freeing life. As we talked above.

Journal your thoughts:

The journey to unlearn thoughts that belittle you start with journaling.

Identify your ideal self beliefs and characteristics:

After you identify your current beliefs and thoughts, you want to identify the thoughts and beliefs your ideal self has.

2. Learn to show up to your commitments

The second step is learning to show up to your own commitments.

3. Dress like the Main Character

Dress like Her.

Write down every detail of your ideal self.

So, how does your ideal self dress? Write it down. There’s no wrong answer here, and it doesn’t have to be the same as mine. This is really understanding how you want to show up each day. I want you to take care of yourself and if it means showering and putting on your favorite sweatpants, then do that.

The Journey Ahead and Why “Her”

The journey to showing up each day as our ideal self is tough, and you may question: is it even worth it? In my opinion, showing up as your best self gives you freedom of the thoughts of ‘I should do this’ or ‘desires’ to be wanting more of our life. It allows you to get unstuck and live more fully. So, whatever gives you freedom in the end is worth it to me.

Summing it all up

Finally, to sum it all up, becoming Her is a process of persistence. It’s an internal fight to become who you want to be, and not letting obstacles get in the way of becoming all and everything you are meant to be and dream to be.



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Ozzy Balkanli

Ozzy Balkanli

Innately curious about finding meanings, purpose and authenticity.